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//Friday, January 23, 2009 4:54 AM

Cherish

I went to see his urn on Wednesday. I brought along white flowers for him because white was his favourite colour. When I saw his family, they were really nice towards me especially his sister. She was really sweet and kind. When I arrived, she even wanted to pay for my cabfare. When I got down and saw her, her eyes look like her brother and I could find some resemblance of Alvin in the way she talks. Even though I could see that she misses her brother alot, she is being positive and try to be as cheerful as she can, because she understands that Alvin will not want her to be too upset. I am really glad to have the chance to spend some time and talked with his family. His sister shared so much about him, how they often fought when they were younger, his character, his personality and how proud she is of her brother.

When she brought me to his urn, she gently touched his photo and told him " 文聪, 你的朋友来看你了..." I nearly wanted to tear when I heard that. She was so nice to let me spend a few moments alone there. I said a little prayer and then make sure the flowers was nicely placed beside but I did not want to leave yet, so I stayed for a while more.

Well for these few days, I cannot quite understand why am I so sad and so much affected by the whole matter. Although Alvin was not really of a close friend to me but the feeling of having lost something precious was very strong actually. I kind of regretted that I did not dial his number earlier so I could at least get to see him in the last moments of his life. I felt very upset that I did not took the chance to tell him how great I think he was and how thankful I am to him for always making me feel confident and pretty. I wonder if he knows that we all miss him very much. Where could he be now? Is he good?.....

I always know in the back of my mind that in life no matter how busy we get, we must always put aside everything and spend time with the ones we loved dearly. We must cherish the people around us, our family, friends, colleagues, or even those whom we are not so close to.. to remember to always tell them how valuable and precious they are, and how much we love them through our actions. Now I am still learning how to do this with my whole heart not just with only my mind. I am learning how not to let time passed me by each day without doing something for someone or saying something nice to a person. And at the end of the day, having all said and done, life is really not how much we get but how much we have given to others.....